"I need space"

My first breakup caused me to feel pain and uncertainty for about eight years, and I hated women because of it. I also learned something about what people are feeling when they say, "I can't, I need space".

A boy who left you last year is messing with your heart today? Pain doesn't last that long, but love does, and love can cause pain if you love someone that doesn't love you back.

I pushed away sincere friends because of it. The only healing I ever had was when I finally stoped loving this person who was now so far in my past.
If you hurt, you still love him. That is why you need space.

Even my relationships today are still impacted by this person in my past. My first girlfriend. I hesitate to feel or trust anyone.

The damage wouldn't have ever been so bad if I knew what the source was.
I needed to stop loving her, stop thinking about her and the times we were together.
I had to stop asking "why" and accept the new situation that she did not want me.

Ask yourself:
Should he impact you more than any of your better friends or family? Should something negative control how you think and feel? You need to let go. That certainly takes time, but isolation won't help. I tried it myself. You need to just stop loving him and the past, love today.

Go out with your friends and family, let something be more important than he was. Put him into the a different place in your mind and heart. So long as this person (any part of them, or your memory of them) is on a pedestal, you will have no peace.

With new experiences, you will get further and further from the past. You need something to think about and value today.

You need friends and new experiences, not empty space. You need to go out more and get your old life back, the good life you had before you met this guy.

We never need space. The problem of space is when we make space for someone that no longer loves us. You need full space, not empty space.