China: You need a wife. Here, have my sister!

Westerners don't do this to others, and they usually don't appreciate it being done to them.

Do not tell us what we NEED.
We do not NEED a wife. We do not NEED a girlfriend.

If we are lonely, we know what to do. It is easy to make friends.

It is very awkward (even rude) for someone to suggest another person for dating or for marriage.
Think about it:

If we say no, then you get offended, right? But another person is not yours to GIVE. You do not own your sisters or your friends, right? So why do you try to give them to other people?

If we say "yes" to be nice, then we say "no" later on, you may assume that something is wrong with your sister or your friend.

If we say "yes" and date for a while, both your sister and myself and going to know that you will bother us for updates about every single date that we have. You will want to know the personal details of our life. You will even want to manage things by saying that we should be closer or we should not be so close, and what we should be allowed to do.

Even if things go very well and a marriage results, then what? You will tell us to make babies.


It is ok to introduce people and say, "I know of someone that you might like to become friends with, you have something in common."

It is NOT ok to say, "You NEED a girlfriend. Here, you should date my sister/cousin/friend now!"

If you say something like that, people know what to expect, and they know what kind of person you are.
Yup, you've just been judged in less than five seconds because you did something that is NOT acceptable in a different culture. Best advice: don't do it!